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Getting a bit sick of it all/
I have a few stories to tell so I’ll be brief with them.
I started high school when I was 10 (I live in aus and I was accelerated) and was still a child. I acted like a child and dressed like a child, despite the fact that I was quite well developed at 10. Yay for C-cups. I was walking home from school one day with my older sister who is very attractive when this creepy old guy comes up and starts asking her heaps of sexual and horrible questions - she was 14. She handed me her phone behind her back and I called my dad so he would hear the situation we were in. we lived nearby and we knew he would come find us. Before he was able to, my sister had pushed him off her and so he turned to me. He grabbed my arm and pulled me towards him while grabbing the phone and throwing it in a drain. Thank god we were still near the school because a parent drove past and started honking at the guy. We promptly sprinted off while he followed us and when we finally were out of sight of him, we were so tired from sprinting 1k that we hid in someones backyard for 2 hours until they got home because we were to scared to go outside.. We reported it when we got home that night but nothing came of it.
The next time was when I was 14 and working at a fast food restaurant and I had been called in to work a shift on short notice. They put me in a manager uniform because I hadn’t had time to go home and it had a white, button up shirt. I got asked multiple times while serving this customer who kept on coming back, where I worked at night. I was quite rattled by this and to my shock, during my break, by searching through my managers friends on facebook, this same man had added me and asked for pictures..
the most recent incident was rattling. I was going for an early morning run near my school boat shed.. (It was 5am..) and a parent at a neighbouring boat shed started following me. I picked up the pace and took a different way to get back to the shed, only to see him sitting in his car outside my shed (a good 2k away from his kids) waiting for me, honked and drove of. He was back when training finished.
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I’m so sick of putting up with this. Tonight after my art class I was waiting at the MUNI stop to go home when some man came along and stood at the other side of the street for the one going the other direction. I thought he was staring at me but I tried to ignore him and finally he started saying some things in a low voice that I couldn’t quite make out. I hoped he was on his phone or something but when I glanced over I realized he was still staring at me directing whatever he was saying towards me. I was creeped out but I figured my bus would come soon; I knew some people were still at the community center so I would make a mad dash for it if he did anything else. Of course when my bus comes he runs for it and gets on a few seats away from me across the car where he can keep staring at me. I look over and see he’s still watching me so I finally let him know I’m on to him by throwing him some glares and show I’m not scared of him. My heart was pounding, I was really relieved my stop was at a larger station so maybe there would be more people or someone at the ticket booth. Of course he gets off when I do. I was so relieved to see three MUNI employees hassling everyone for their tickets when I got off. I immediately went up to one and explained that someone was following me and asked if he could walk me to the station exit; you just go up the stairs and then there’s a larger area with the ticket machines and everything. The creepy guy went over and sat on a bench about four feet away. I explained to the second employee that the creep had been saying weird stuff to me earlier and had been following me. The employee asks if the man is still there and I point him out, he’s sitting right there on the bench! I keep pleading for someone to just walk me to the exit and finally one half-heartedly says he’ll watch to see no one follows me when I go up the stairs. There are three employees standing there and they can’t spare on to walk me up the stairs. I even showed them who the guy was and they didn’t even say anything to him. I just wanted to be out of there so I ran up the stairs, I was really freaked out because there’s another exit on the street and I thought he could come out of that one and be there waiting for me. I didn’t trust that the employee would actually even watch to see if the guy left. I had been so relieved to see station employees when I got off, I was completely put off balance when they didn’t try to help me at all. I’m really ashamed that I didn’t make a scene in the station. I hadn’t been able to make out what the creep had actually said to me and I felt like everyone would think I was just paranoid if I said he was following me, but I’m sure he was he got on the wrong bus to follow me! I did call the MUNI hotline after and the employee was really nice and apologized and explained that one of the employees should’ve at least walked me to the exit; I have the complaint number too. The really sad thing is I love my art class but I wasn’t sure about taking it since I don’t always feel safe at night. I actually looked at the map before I signed up to make sure I wouldn’t have to walk too far from any stations. Last week as I walked out of the community center I had some guy make a hey baby comment. I’m just disgusted that I even have to consider these things when I make plans. I just want to take my art class, I shouldn’t have to be shaking when I come home because some creep harasses me. I keep going over the scenario in my head to see if I should’ve done something differently.
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STFU, Sexists!
Hi everyone! This is my first post on STFU Sexists. I won’t bore you with some long diatribe about my personal political opinions, and I won’t apologize in advance for offending anyone. I want to bring to light (and hopefully bring some humor) to the vast tubes of the Internetz and the sexist trolls hiding in Facebook, Myspace, comments on articles, and anywhere else I can find ‘em.
But this isn’t just about humor. I think we’re (always) at a critical point in women’s rights. Women are still viewed as the weaker sex, and still subservient. A lot of sexism occurs in things that we don’t even notice, but I digress.
I’m not focusing on institutionalized sexism (well, not usually.) I’m focusing on the facepalm, “Did that person REALLY say that” moments of sexism, because those are clearly and often hilariously ignorant and unacceptable.
SOME DISCLAIMERS:
- I am pro Choice. I view anti-choice as anti-woman, because in no situation in our society do we find it acceptable to tell men what to do with their bodies. Yes, this site will focus on reproductive rights being attacked. STFU.
- I am a feminist. No, I will not tolerate the use of words like “feminazi” for the same reason I would not tolerate anyone referring to Martin Luther King as an “afronazi”. STFU.
- I am politically and socially liberal. This will probably, at some point, be obvious to you. If you are going to disagree with me because you fundamentally disagree with me, I welcome your thoughtful arguments. If you are going to disagree with me because “shut up u stup1d b1tch”, well…STFU.
Let the S-ing TFU begin!
-Miss Ogny
Everyone, look! It’s my first post ever. Look at how adorable I was! “I’m not going to focus on institutionalized sexism, just obvious sexism!” I mention Myspace!
SO ADORBS.
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I’ve been harassed ever since puberty and I’ve even submitted a story or two here already. But I have another that I think is worthy of a good few facepalms.
It was after bar time and my lover and I went to a restaurant across the street for some food. As we were walking out back to his car, amorously arm in arm, frankly kinda gross as couples go, a guy parks his car and shouts to me “You alright? You want a ride? Yeeeah.”
He was actually trying to pick me up and holler at me when I was literally in the arms of another man. And here I thought that was a sure fire was of avoiding getting harassed on the street. Good grief.
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I was so glad to find this tumblr. It sickens me that anyone would suppose it possible to ‘enjoy’ these experiences. I’ve been harassed in small towns, and big cities. The one that scared me the most was a car full of guys cat-calling -who then pulled around, circled back, and followed me. I was genuinely frightened and had my friends walk out to meet me. The one that stands out most is also the most recent -I was walking home from work, I noticed a pair of guys staring at me. I ignored them and crossed the street, but then I heard footsteps and looked to see one of them walking towards me -and this was not a coincidence, they’d been walking the opposite direction before. His friend, luckily for me, shouted “Leave her ALONE!” and pulled his arm. I have no idea what the creepy dude had in mind, but I’m glad I didn’t find out. At least his friend recognized that whatever it was, it would not be ok.
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cherryvision-deactivated2012011 asked: That last post was extremely cissexist, putting scare quotes around female. As though if they found out that they were trans suddenly their gender wouldn't be legitimate anymore. Stuff like this is why trans people end up homeless at an alarming rate.
Thank you so much for sending this to my inbox, I completely posted that by accident. I wanted to delete it and it accidentally got published. I totally agree with you and was really disturbed by it as well. While no one should harass another person, I do not condone expressing one’s displeasure at being harassed by smearing trans people for simply being trans.
My apologies for publishing that submission. It was not my intent and I am mortified that it was published on this site
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Strip Club Sleazes
I used to be in Roller Derby and after a particularly satisfying practice, two of my friends (derby names Tits for Tat and Skim Milf) and I decided to go get a drink. We also decided to go to the strip club because we had a friend who worked there and were hoping she’d be there that night. She wasn’t there though, so we just got drinks and sat down to watch the dancers.
A couple of guys were near us and one came over and sat next to Milf. She had her arm in a sling because she’d broken it playing derby. He asked her how she got the injury, she told him we were derby girls. He started pestering her with questions and she was trying to tell him to go away, but every time she did he’d say, “Huh?” and act like the music was too loud. Then another one of his friends came and sat by ME and started pestering me. Tits came back with our drinks and immediately got mad, seeing how these guys were bothering us. She very loudly said, “HEY BOYS? THEY’RE WITH ME.” And sat down between us. The guys left, but then one came back and started harrassing Milf again. Tits very loudly told him to fuck off. He said, “Huh?” and laughed, acting like he couldn’t hear her. She leaned over and made a very deliberate shooing motion and said, “FUCK. OFF.” He did, and we moved to a different table. They kept muttering and motioning to us and when me and Tits got up to go to the bathroom, one of the guys muttered, “Which girl is she with?” Tits heard him and turned around and said, “They’re both mine!” They left us alone after that.
Protip guys: If a woman is in a strip club, she’s not there for you. She’s there to have a drink and see naked women. Dumbass.
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I’m 13 and I get checked out a lot, but usually I have my best friend Ruby beside me to growl at them, but I was at home this time and I thought I was OK. Someone went through one of their friends to get to me and started to tell me all the disgusting and horrible things they wanted to do to me. After telling them to get lost a lot of times, they offered to go on camera. Then I said no, and he still called me.
I’m used to catcalling and wolf-whistles, but I never thought someone would be so pushy and persistant.
It’s not flattering and I was shaking for 30 minutes after it.
Good on you! I was googling ‘how to prevent harassment on the street’ and came across this.
I’ve been harassed several times and I’m so sick of it. I don’t know if its because I’m quite petite and don’t look tough but I keep getting rude comments and gestures from random men on the street. Once, I was waiting at a bus stop when a car full of men stopped next to me (it was a red light) and for a few minutes shouted, made gestures, and tried to scare me. The other day in a tube station in London (Westminster, next to Parliament and this still happens?!), a huge drunk man came up, rubbed my hair, grabbed my shoulder. I was sitting down and was afraid that I would step right into him if I stood up as he was leaning over me, and was too terrified to move. He also made disgusting sexual comments. Quite a few men have said to me as I walk past ‘ni hao’. I am Chinese and this is in NO way flattering. No one ever says shit like that to be friendly or to express interest in your culture; they say it because they are utter douchebags who are being racist. This is the Chinese equivalent to the N-word. I don’t know if I should shout back or snap at them - I’m so sick of taking it lying down, particularly the racial jibes. Any thoughts? Some sites have said not to get into an argument, but what do i do when someone drops a comment like that and then walks off? Is it still acceptable to snap ‘Piss off!’ or ‘Fuck off!’ at them? I can’t change my
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